A Code of Conduct for Parents and Care Givers Who Wish to Create a Positive Family Environment for Their Children.

The most important thought for parents or care givers who wish to create a code of conduct to produce positive environment for their children is that before anything can be written you must learn to know the child/children in your care. Two main themes can be explored in this regard.
1. How a child learns at a particular age
2. His/her character/disposition or temperament
That being said I would now like to leave these two areas and concentrate on constructing a code of conduct the code of conduct

Children and adolescents need five main things in life,

A safe and secure place
To be loved
To have power
To have freedom
To have fun and learning

A Secure place
A secure place is a place that provides a feeling of comfort, safety and security. A place that creates the feeling that nothing of value to you will be taken away. A place that is beautiful and undisturbed

To be loved
To be loved, to have a sense of belonging to a family, to a group, to the world.

To have power
To have the ability, skill, or capacity to do something, To have the feeling of achievement even it is small, to have a sense of feeling worth while, to have the feeling of being empowered in what they think feel and do.

To have Freedom
The freedom to have personal independence and the capacity to make moral decisions and act on them. Not to be judged or commented on in the light of external knowledge only. To have some degree of self governance

To have fun and learning
To have a time, feeling or activity of enjoyment and amusement, joy in the acquisition of knowledge, understanding and skills.

(Reference Dr William Glasser Choice theory)

As parents, mentors or caregivers we can also strive to provide:
v Appropriate imagery –choosing metaphors with care and imagination
v Wholeness and balance – holistic paradigm
v Identification, connectedness, integration – epistemological inter-connectedness
v Individual values –value the individual
v Visualisation– development of the picturing imagination
v Empowerment through active hope -– distinguish between faith and hope
v Stories – use story telling and mythology as a powerful teaching tool
v Celebration -– learn how to celebrate festivals

(Australian researchers Beare and Slaughter)

All of the above can be found in a condensed form from the follow statement about education from Rudolf Steiner

“The need for imagination, a sense of truth and the feeling of responsibility --–– these are the three forces which are the very nerve of education.”

Rudolf Steiner